#NationalComingOutDay – My Story

coming-out-day-oct-11In the now-distant past, the notion of coming out as gay was so terrifying, I waited twenty-eight years, endured a nine year marriage, fathered a son, and tried everything (short of conversion therapy) to convince myself that my attraction to men was “just a phase.” But to my consternation, those feelings would not go away. I was miserable, living a life I knew was not authentic, not true to who I was as a human.

And so I did what had to be done. But even the process of coming out was done reluctantly, slowly, in jumps and starts. I came out to my wife (she sorta kinda already knew), and we divorced due to “irreconcilable differences.”  I came out to my family next, with the most common reaction being, “It’s about time!” Shortly after that, I met my partner, Larry, and we’ve been together ever since. That was twenty-six years ago.

It wasn’t as easy coming out in the 1980s as it is today. The acceptance of sexual orientation (both inwardly and publicly) has grown year by year. But there are still obstacles to overcome when coming out. Even with marriage equality being the law of the land, it is still legal in 31 states to be fired for being gay. And there is no Federal protection status for LGBTs. But the progress has been remarkable for us, for ALL of us.

So, on the 27th anniversary of National Coming Out Day, to those who are afraid, or reluctant, or are just waiting for the right time, I say to you, “Come on out, the weather’s fine!” And know this: you will always have a great big, world-wide family that welcomes you, cares about you, and loves you just the way you are.

Advertisements

Let Your Gay Kids Be Gay – They Were Born That Way

Homo young

I can say now that I knew I was gay when I was around six, although I didn’t know what I felt was called “homosexuality.” At that time (in the late sixties and early seventies) there were no gay role models, no support from peers or adults, no one to talk to about what I was feeling. I most assuredly could not talk to parents about it. Most of the information I could find about homosexuality was outdated and negative, and the name-calling from kids at school was devastating. I fought against my feelings and desires as hard as I could for over 20 years. I even got married to a woman at 19, and we had a son five years later. It was three years after that when I could no longer live in denial of who I was – and had been since birth – GAY! I was finally ready to accept what I had been hiding (and hiding from) for so long.
No child should have to suffer or hide – like I did – in their growing-up years. My advice to parents is this: Kids KNOW when they KNOW, regardless of age. Please be supportive and loving. Celebrate and encourage your child to discover the greatness that is within them. Your gay child needs you to be there for them. And you’ll all be better for it.

An Open Letter to the City Council of Holland, Michigan

On Friday, June 26, The Supreme Court of the United States affirmed what the majority of Americans support and believe: that the freedom to marry who you love is the right of every American, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. This is a giant step forward in ensuring that we are all created equal and we all deserve the same rights.

However, the ruling does nothing to protect those in the LGBT community from getting fired from their jobs or being denied housing because of who they love or marry. When making a lifelong commitment with our partner, we can share the joy and happiness of our marriage with our friends and family, but at the same time we also face the possibility of losing our jobs or being evicted from the place we call home.

That’s just not right.

On June 15, 2011 the Holland City Council, in a 5-4 decision, voted not to add “sexual orientation and gender identity” to the city’s human relations and fair housing ordinances and the equal employment opportunity policy. This came even after a year-long Human Relations Commission study that recommended the change to the ordinance.

In the four years since that vote, many hearts and minds have changed. The overwhelming support and success of Holland Area Pride 2015 showed that Holland, Michigan is an open, welcoming, and diverse community. The time has come to take the next step and join the more than 30 municipalities in Michigan that already treat their LGBT residents as equals.
holland city hallNow is the time to show our city, our state, and the country that Holland, Michigan is open, caring, and welcoming to everyone in our community, no matter who they are or who they love.

Holland City Council, it’s time for a vote.

Love Wins!

The day we have been waiting for, hoping for, FIGHTING FOR, has finally arrived. Marriage Equality is now the law of the land. Thanks go to the justices of the Supreme Court (the majority), to the plaintiffs in Obergefell v. Hodges, and to the President of The United States Barack Obama, who has tirelessly advocated for the LGBT community since his “evolution” on marriage equality. This is a truly historic day for gays and lesbians across the country and for everyone who believes in equality for ALL.

love wins

A Reminder To GOP Presidential Candidates

Politically Activated

This is a friendly reminder to Mike Huckabee, Ted Cruz, Jeb Bush, Rick Santorum, Ben Carson, Marco Rubio, Bobby Jindal, Carly Fiorina, and any other current or future GOP presidential candidate – plus most Republicans in Congress. Although, to some it doesn’t really matter because they believe that the Constitution was written by God himself.

law

View original post

Two Boys Win Cutest Couple at McKinleyville Middle School, Students Launch Social Media Campaign in Solidarity | Lost Coast Outpost | Humboldt County

Fairy JeriBear's Trans/LGBTQIA+ Musings From The City Different - Santa Fe, NM

Two middle school boys are now a viral media sensation for posing as a couple and winning the schools cutest couple contest. Now other students have emulated them also taking photos of mostly same-sex couple. The campaign has a simple message, “This Is Okay.” Here’s the story from Ryan Burns  writing for Lost Coast Outpost….
 
image

It all started with this photo (above). 

McKinleyville Middle School students Lance (in the back) and Jair posed for it during a yearbook committee meeting. Close friends, the pair had nominated themselves for the school’s “cutest couple” contest, despite the fact that they’re not really a couple, at least not in the traditional, romantic kind of way. They’re both straight — and cousins.

According to Lance’s mom, Irene Lally, the guys struck this prom-style pose (and ran for “cutest couple”) as a way to say that any couple is OK: straight, gay, boy-girl…

View original post 495 more words